A Wedding Story: Memories of Love and Bonds in the Village of Mahishar

Mahishar: The kingdom of green and the pulse of life

 **The name of the village is Mahishar. ** The kingdom of a little green.  Small canal running, bamboo poles on it, and mud

The paths are surrounded on both sides by different trees, including symulgacha - all in all it is like a kingdom of greenery.  In Mysore

Organizing a wedding is not just a family celebration; The whole village is decorated.  And that is the beginning of this story

In a room in Mahiser, Ruma was preparing to get married with the help of her maternal aunts.  

Ruma: Sweet smiling girl

 Ruma is twenty one.  The girl with a sweet smile and big eyes is loved by everyone.  His father is a farmer, and his mother is a housewife. 

The family is not very rich, but there is no shortage either, the financial condition of the Rumas was not good as the poor farmers said, the elder two

After the brother went abroad, the situation is now prosperous, even then, in the current high price market, Rumar Abbar

Help had to be taken from relatives.  Ruma's talent and beauty are talked about in the whole village.  in studies

Despite being good, she couldn't get through college, as her parents were impatient for her to get married. 

Groom: A quiet boy from the neighboring village

 Ruma's groom-to-be is Rajiv, a boy from a neighboring village.  Age twenty three.  They have a clothes shop.  Rajiv's family

Financial condition is good, but they are very simple and down to earth people.  Rajiv and Rajiv's family

Loved by Ruma at first sight, Rajeev's father is modest and modest like Ruma's father, Ruma too.

Modest and restrained.  Talks continued between the two families, and soon the wedding day was fixed. 

Wedding Preparations: Dress up robes across the village

A buffalo festival means a grand event.  When there is a wedding in the village, the turn to give invitations starts first. 

Ruma's father and uncle went around the whole village and invited everyone.  Before marriage ceremony means that clay

The courtyard is quiet throughout the year, where the work of making sweets for the chowki begins.  Women sing in groups

Music and work hand in hand.  Smiles on everyone's faces and joy in hearts, but now the cook works like a city,

Rice is thick, fish is not there now, there is chicken like in the city, roast, beef ribs.  Dishes from home

The crockery is not brought, all is given by the decorators.

 On one hand, the pandal is being built for the wedding, on the other hand, cooking arrangements are going on.  village boy

The girls have taken the responsibility of bringing flowers and arranging them.  On the other hand, the band leader came and planned the stage

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Ceremony of Yellow: Festival of Colors

 Earlier, the yellow of the village meant war, who will paint whom, now days there is no calm and polite bride and groom yellow like the city.

Giving and receiving food.  I remembered an incident from my childhood at a relative's wedding in the family

I went, what anand, all the soil was done, my elder sister's saree was dyed with new expensive saree, with dyes.

The moment the color was trying to fade away, the joy turned to tears, my sister's seki

crying

 Although Ruma herself doesn't say much, she has mixed feelings.  On the one hand, the beginning of a new life,

On the other hand, the pain of going away from family.  Her mother wipes her eyes again and again, but keeps a smile on her face

Kept to comfort her daughter.  

Wedding day: the beginning of the great festival

 From the morning of the wedding day, there was a different response in the entire village.  Rumake gold saree and mother's wedding jewellery

Dressed up.  There is only one word on everyone's lips - "Ruma looks like an apsari today."  Hold the girl's hand

His mother said with tears in her eyes.  

 "You're fine mom. I'll try to adjust everything there."  

 The bridegroom came in the afternoon.  Rajeev appeared in a white sherwani and a red turban.  With the singing of the bridegroom

The whole village was excited.  Ruma's younger brothers blocked the groom's way, the gate was taken, in exchange for 3000 rupees

Rajiv was released.  Rajiv gave the money with a smile.  

 The wedding ceremony started with betel nut.  Kazi Sahib came.  A little shame of the bride and groom and the villagers

The air was filled with laughter and acceptance of marriage.  The bride's girls sang songs 

"Today Ruma will be a wife, everyone's favorite Ruma, the new house will light up, her new morning will rise!"  

 Eating and drinking started.  The banquet was arranged in seven steps.  Beef, Polao, and last leaves

Curd and rasgulla.  All the bridegroom's faces are satisfied.  

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Farewell moment: Flood of tears

 The evening approached.  The courtyard, decorated with sweet light, suddenly felt heavy.  Farewell moment.  Ruma

He silently greeted everyone with his hands.  His mother and grandmother cried.  Ruma herself is tearful

Couldn't hold back.  

 "Mom, I will come back here sometime. Why are you crying so much?"  

 Mother just patted his head and prayed.  Rajiv gave Ruma in the car and said,

"You'll be all right. I'm here."  

Baubhat: Arrival of new life

 The river at the end of the village tells the story of life.  There is a lot of activity in the small house next to him. 

The white saree on the back of the head, the footprints of Alta Makha, the flash of the new saree, and the smile on everyone's face - it's like one.

Sweet busyness.  Today is Ruma's bridegroom.  Rajiv, the eldest son of the house, has brought his new wife.  for this day

Everyone's waiting is eternal.  

 In fact, in this small community of the village, Baubhat means not only the limitation of a ceremony; It is a festival.  A

Not only the family but the entire village is involved in the festival.  Rajib is married to Ruma, a girl from another village

This is a new experience for the village people.  Everyone is anxious to see, how is that wife?  

 Early in the morning Alpana started to be painted with rice flour in the backyard.  The old woman is sitting and supervising everyone. 

"Make a little round here! Make the flower bigger," he advises.  Big mezzo grandma, pc, ja everyone

Millentun is making pies for his wife.  Coconut, jaggery, milk—all of the best quality.  "Don't give me so much sugar, Rajiv

Kshere doesn't like too much sweetness," as if adopting the new wife's preferences.  

 Ruma's reception officially started after coming home.  Large pisima tamar loto of betel nut, paddy, and banana

Started auspicious work with.  Everyone in the village was impressed when they saw Ruma for the first time.  Her long hair, sweet smile, and

A shy look in the eye—everyone says, "Rajib got married after seeing his wife, didn't he?"  

 Ruma is very sociable from the beginning.  Baubhat doesn't really know the conventional rules, but he does everything as his own

He said to the old woman, "Grandma, you want to eat the back of your hand. Shall I eat some?"  This one

It was as if the whole house came back to life with the words.  

 A cooking arrangement in a corner of the big yard.  A wedding in the village means a big feast.  huge

Meals are arranged in the middle of the pendle chair table, meat, fish, chicken, sweets—everything is going on next to it

in equal measure.  Rajiv's friends are busy supervising the cooking.  Some are again muttering, “What is the new wife cooking?

Can I do?  Does Polao know?"  

 Ruma herself entered the kitchen.  Her mother-in-law saw her a little annoyed and said, "Why are you here? You should be with the guests."  Ruma smiled and said, "Mom, I'm here to see. I'll help if needed."  A smile of indulgence appeared on the mother-in-law's face.  "You see, that's enough."  

 Everyone in the village arrived at noon.  Boubhat means village pet worship.  Meals are arranged in the middle of the huge pendle chair table.  As the new wife comes in front of everyone, someone says, "Shall we not feed the new wife sweets?"  The old woman said with a smile, "Khawabe to batei."  

 Ruma himself was serving Polao to everyone's plate.  An old woman held her hand and said, "Woman, you are the Lakshmi of our house."  Ruma bowed her head shyly, "All will be with your blessing."  

 Baubhat is not just eating; In the afternoon there are songs, chats, and small competitions. With Rajib and Ruma, the village girls organized a game of "wife-in-law".  The bride and groom were entertained by asking various questions.  Ruma kept everyone drunk with her sweet smile.  

 The story of Ruma and Rajiv does not end here.  The bond that was developed through Baubhat is not only two people, but two families.  Ruma is a village girl who likes to savor rural life.  And the people of the village also adopted him.  The old woman repeatedly says, "Ruma is the light of the house."  

 The wedding is over, but the memory of that day remains in everyone's mind.  This simplicity of life, this joy is the real wealth.  All the girls who came from Ruma's house finished eating and went to their own house with Rajiv, Rajiv and Ruma went to Ruma's father's house for two and a half days. 

 A story of two and a half days

 Rajiv was invited by his in-laws to stay for two and a half days after the Bau Bhat ceremony was over.

  When the son-in-law visits the in-laws' house, a special meal is arranged for him.  At this time, the son-in-law is like the father-in-law

He can easily mingle with the members of the house, for that purpose he is included in various activities.  In these works

One of them is to go to the market and buy fish. 

 Bangladeshi culture has many happy moments associated with fish and markets.  For the new son-in-law

\The experience of going to the market to buy fish is as funny as it is heartwarming.  In-laws with Rajiv

Family members go to the local market.  There the role of son-in-law is mainly bargaining in buying fish

to do  Although many feel a little shy at first due to lack of experience, it is very enjoyable

becomes an experience.  

 Fish is an essential part of Bengali cuisine.  When the son-in-law markets for the in-laws, it is only one

Not a cultural ritual, but a symbol of a bond between two families.  A special one from the in-laws

When told about the fish, the son-in-law tried to buy them.  Buying large sized rooi, katla, or hilsa fish

Usually an interesting aspect of such events.  After returning from the market, the in-laws

Khushi cooks special dishes with that fish, fish is a gift for the girls who cut the fish in the father-in-law's house

A 500 rupee note is placed in the ear, which is enjoyed together. 

 For Rajeev, two and a half days is not just about fulfilling duties at the in-laws' home, but becoming a member of a family

suitable time for  This is the time to buy fish, market, and have fun with family members

passed  All the in-laws share funny stories with the son-in-law, sometimes calling him to the kitchen

Teaches cooking techniques. 

 After this two and a half day ritual, when Rajiv returned to his home, his father-in-law took him with him

Home of love, care, and wonderful memories.  The relationship between the two families becomes deeper and more sincere.  this

Social and cultural bonds become stronger through customs. 

 The two-and-a-half-day ritual for Rajeev is a fun and traditional ritual, which is sincere to the new member in the family

Ensure participation.  Small tasks like buying and marketing fish become enjoyable at this time. 

It creates a special moment not only for the new groom but for the entire family.  This type of Bangladesh

Traditions highlight the beauty of our social bonds. 

 New family: New dreams

Rajiv and Ruma's family started.  Entering the busy life of another village from that small village in Mahiser.  Ruma

Adapted himself slowly.  His smile and good manners endeared him to all the in-laws.  

 Ruma and Rajiv started weaving new dreams together.  Their life story may be new one day

The story will begin.  

Conclusion: An inseparable story of love and bonding

 This story is not just about Ruma and Rajiv; It is a reflection of our society, our culture. 

Such a beautiful story of love, responsibility, and dreams of a new life.